Dating a codependent
In the same way that a hoarder finds comfort collecting objects a Narcissist gains comfort collecting people.
His actions at best are showing you that he has a massive fear of commitment and that he can’t make up his mind whether to stay or go.
Harem members may or may not know about each other. It often comes as a great surprise to most women that the man they’ve been obsessing over, has actually been bouncing around from woman to woman.
Narcissists like secrecy, because if his harem members ever compared notes, the web of lies that they’ve been weaving would come crashing down and he would lose his stash of supply.
A Narcissist requires excessive amounts of attention and admiration.
Consequently, he accumulates an assortment of people (Narcissistic Supply) he can turn to whenever he has a need for them.
I recall speaking to a woman, who was involved with the very last Narcissist I dated and she told me that after our Narcissist had hurt her again and again, by constantly blowing hot and cold and making it quite clear that he was never going to give her the relationship that she wanted, she had actually offered to be ‘friends with benefits,’ and even went so far as to tell him that, no guy would ever match up to him.